If he doesn’t text or call you everyday is that a deal breaker? You just met someone and the chemistry feels like it’s there, but you are noticing a pattern in his communication habits. Maybe he’s okay going more than three days without a simple “hi” or “hope you had a good day.”
Does this mean that he’s not interested, or is this simply a reflection of his personality? Personally, if I’m pursuing someone who I am truly interested in, I’d prefer to talk at least every other day. Every interaction definitely does not need to be a full-blown convo, but a simple “hello” keeps the communication there. It also let’s that other person know that “hey, I’m still here and I’m still interested.”
Even if you are exploring other options (considering that this is still a new situation), don’t make him feel like an option if he is someone who you genuinely see potential in. So again, here you are waiting for a sign that he’s still interested after you’ve already pulled your fair share of weight. What should you do?
1. Don’t Store All Your Eggs in One Basket
You can start by not putting your life on hold for him. At the end of the day, you still have a life to live and maybe you should consider keeping your options open while storing him in your back pocket. Go to your favorite bar, hang with friends, be social and you’ll probably be just as distracted as he seems to be. As a result, you won’t even notice that you have not heard a peep “outta dis mf’er” for a week.
*Excuse the slang, hehe*
2. Know What Works for YOU in a Relationship
We all have standards and when two people come together, those standards have to be compromised. Compromise is a good thing. However, if someone is showing you signs of something that could potentially be a huge problem moving forward, you may want to re-evaluate how far you want to go with that person.
Depending on how well and how long you have known this guy, it may be a good idea to bring it up in a conversation. Do this without making him feel attacked. Be sure to place all the blame on yourself.
3. Pick Up a New Hobby
Well—maybe the issue is you. Perhaps you are a bit too needy. What is needy?
Needy = wanting to talk to him all day everyday while making his life your life, his friends your friends, his hobbies your hobbies…should I go on?
If both of you guys share this characteristic and it works–GREAT; if not, then it definitely may be worth doing some self-evaluating. Picking up a new hobby or rediscovering an old hobby is a good way to remember that you still have your own life. You know, the life you had before you met this guy…
It can be hard when you meet someone who you really like and to be thrown all types of mixed signals. It’s crazy how one person can have a certain amount of control over your emotions. However, your personal history in dating probably does have a lot to do with it. As I stated previously, you still have your own life to live at the end of the day and that shouldn’t be put on pause just because one person is being somewhat vague in his intentions.
Moral of the story, find someone who you’re compatible with and whose habits you can tolerate. Also, reading between the lines is a wonderful skill to have! If you can’t handle going days with out talking to him, then he may not be the one for you.