Dating in the Gay Community

It’s so easy to answer this question with a simple yes, HOWEVER, I think it all depends on how you view things. With there being so much emphasis placed on how much sex appeal an individual has, it’s so easy to get caught up in the hype. ESPECIALLY when you’re in your 20’s and maybe early 30’s.

You go on a dating app and the only guys that seem to be getting attention are the ones who are oozing sex appeal with half naked pics. You log onto Instagram and the guys getting the most “likes” are the guys with super sexy bodies. You go to the club and the guys wearing fitted hats, or with muscles bulging out their shirts, or asses hanging out of their jeans are the ones getting the most attention. So where does this leave you? Where do I fit in, in this superficial community?

What you have to remember is that the attention these guys are getting all revolves around one thing–their sex appeal. And of course, we all want to be sexy–there’s nothing wrong with that. But what’s more fulfilling than that is getting attention based on who you are as a person, personality wise.

I’ll admit, there have been times in my life where I felt like I just couldn’t compete in the dating world amongst all these extremely handsome men. Then I realized that I can’t compete with anyone but myself. We all bring something different to the table and that’s what makes us beautiful. And like I said earlier, I don’t WANT to be with someone who is attracted to my “sex appeal” over my soul.

In all I would say that YES, there is a lot of emphasis placed on looks and popularity. However, there’s more to the community than that. You just have to look past the hype and imagery that is always being thrown in our face through social media…etc. Focus on all the wonderful things that make you who you are and the right person will eventually come along.


03-31-14 | 1:20 a.m.

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